The Three Skills
Stop Keeping Score, Nurturing Intimacy, and Mastering Acceptance
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Having a Vulnerability Map when Nurturing Intimacy
When you are trying to nurture intimacy, it’s helpful to understand where your partner is particularly vulnerable and where he/she is relatively secure. For example, your partner may be sensitive to comments about her weight but secure in her academic skill. Or, he may be confident about his athletic skill but sensitive to being called…
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The Three Skills in the Workplace
Of The Three Skills, Not Keeping Score comes immediately to mind when thinking about how the skills apply. This is because of the negative impact that judging others has on workplace camaraderie and team building. In his book, The Five Dysfunctions of a Team: A Leadership Fable, author Patrick Lencioni makes a strong case for…
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The Three Skills and Criticism
The skill of Not Keeping Score can be helpful for avoiding emotional pain in response to the comments and criticism of others. This is particularly true if you are sensitive or prone to interpreting even constructive criticism as a kind of rejection. In my experience, people who are likely to be hurt by any kind…
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The Three Skills Book 2
The second book in the The Three Skills series two book series is now available on Amazon. Click on this link for direct access! Thank you for checking it out!
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The Three Skills and A Sense of Worth
Each of the three skills is easier to implement if your sense of self-worth is positive. Specifically, Not Keeping Score is intended to, at least, maintain and perhaps, reinforce a positive self-image. And intimacy is easier to nurture if your sense of worth is stable (it’s easier to be vulnerable with a foundation of feeling…
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The Three Skills and Anxiety
The Three Skills together offer several strategies and perspectives for soothing anxiety. Before visiting them, it might be helpful to review what anxiety is and what role it plays in protecting you. I like to think of anxiety as a natural reaction to a threat whether it is real or imagined. In many respects, it’s…
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The Three Skills Blog
My hope is to use this blog to compliment the two Three Skills books. For example, I plan on writing a post about how the three skills can help with anxiety and a sense of worthiness. The other topics I’m thinking about are using the three skills in the workplace, in parenting, and for teenagers.…